I must warn you in advance that this is going to be a very long post.
Snobbery. I’m not so sure that’s a real word but if not we’ll just add it to the book of words and phrases I call ‘Samantha-isms’ 🤣
What is snobbery? It’s the act of being a snob. So what, then, is a snob? Let’s look at Urban Dictionary (this is quickly becoming my favorite dictionary) which defines a snob as;
“A person who at the least, gives off the impression of having a superiority complex towards everyone outside his or her social circle with body language and words. Snobs come in many shapes and forms and in just about every style, e.g., Preppy snobs, Artistic snobs, Musical snobs, and even Redneck snobs. Whatever group of snobs someone belongs to, they act like they know everything in that area of knowledge and are less than friendly toward outsiders.”
Why am I discussing this? Good question. The reason is that about a month or two ago I came across the following in an Instagram story;
This screenshot is from a story by Katy Kehle of Hook, Line, and Inker, and you can find her on Instagram here and on YouTube here.(Screenshot and links shared, as always, with permission)
It made me think about something.
How many people do you follow on social media who don’t give you the time of day?
Now let me be fair. Nobody is obligated to like, comment, or follow anyone or anything. Ever.
I imagine, for the larger accounts, that it would become overwhelming trying to respond to each comment, each message, etc. For celebrity accounts I imagine it would certainly be a daunting and nearly impossible task to consider.
I feel that when people support you it’s important to acknowledge them. Perhaps you don’t have time to respond to every comment, maybe you don’t have the drive, the mental energy, or perhaps you just don’t want to. That’s fine.
However if I am consistently supporting you (commenting, liking sharing, etc) on social media and you don’t bother to even like my comments every now and then I’m not going to support you as often.
If I’m giving, giving, giving all of my positive energy to you and receive nothing in return then I’m going to take that energy and focus it elsewhere.
You get what you give.
I for one will always try my best to respond to every comment I receive. If people can take the time to write a comment then I’m going to take the time to reply.
That’s something that’s very important to me.
This is actually a difficult topic for me to sum up in one neat little post because, as with most things, I can see it from multiple angles and perspectives.
To help me out Katy has graciously agreed to an interview.
About a month or two ago you’d posted this image in your stories on Instagram and it really struck me. So much so that I asked if you would mind if I’d take a screenshot and use it in a blog post as I feel this speaks to a problem I’ve also noticed in the online crafting community.
Could you share a bit about what it was that prompted you to share this?
I noticed a story by a larger (following) crafter that I wanted to reply to. I realized I couldn’t. On any of their stories. I found it very closed off. I would say that with a large following, I understand the need to not have your inbox drowning in messages you don’t have time to answer. However, I feel that this reflected this particular crafter’s personality as well. Which makes me sad.
Why was it important for you to share this?
It’s important for me because I don’t WANT to be craft world famous. All those that are, seem to struggle with it, and I just don’t want that life anyway. I never want cardmaking to be my job. I’d resent it. And my real personality and opinions (never fake) wouldn’t allow me to become that popular anyway. Which is fine with me. I want anyone to be able to message me about crafting or whatever and I want to be approachable. Unless you’re a gross guy looking for something else. That never happens though, because my profile photo is usually a card. I block every spam or non craft business follower I get. I’m sure that number would be much higher if I didn’t, but I don’t care. I want you to subscribe to my YouTube channel if you like it, but I don’t ask you to in my videos. I’m not using it to make money, I’m using it to share crafting.
When you think about the alternative; people not being able to respond to your stories, how do you think that they might view you? How would you view yourself?
I think they’d view me like I viewed the crafter I couldn’t reply to. Cold and closed off and “I only talk to the crafters in my special clique.” I would view myself the same, which is why it will never happen. No thank you!
Does it change your opinion of artists on social media when they are not receptive to chatting with people? If yes, how so?
Definitely. See above. I unfollow them when I encounter this. If I CAN reply and they’re rude, I also unfollow.
What are the biggest issues you are seeing in the creative community, aside from the one that prompted you to share this image?
I’m seeing more and more crafters (you can find them yourself) using annoying buzzwords in their YouTube video titles and making videos clearly for the views and the money. It’s really sad and I just happen to have a personality type that does not do well with “fake.”
Do you think that there are any solutions? Do you think there is anything we could all be doing a bit differently?
The solution is to stay true to yourself. Don’t sell out your hobby for cash. Don’t worry about the number of followers you have or views on your videos. If you want to start a channel, do it! Ask me for help! I will help you! I use a cell phone and yardsticks and you can too! 😂 We need more genuine crafters on the internet. Unfortunately, there are always going to be people who sell out.
Katy, thank you so much. For sharing the image, agreeing to be interviewed, and for bringing up this topic. Our interview has also made me think about some other things that I’ll be discussing in future posts.
Things to remember:
- You are never obligated to like, comment, reply, message, etc.
- If you choose not to interact you do risk people not wanting to support you.
- Relationships require give and take. Not just take, take, take.
- Be true to yourself. There is only one you and you are pretty special.
- Your art is not better than that of any other artist and no other artist’s art is better than yours. You can not measure expressions of the human soul.
Until next time,
Be the kind of person that you wish there were more of,